About Relationships
DREAMS DO COME TRUE
More often than not my clients have developed healthy relationships but it takes time. The following steps are helpful to keep in mind if you are recovering from bulimia.
STEP ONE: Take care of yourself first. As you live without using food to calm and comfort yourself, you will begin to learn who you are, what you want and to understand your past relationships. This is an important step in not making the same old mistakes again.
STEP TWO: If you are in a relationship and it is having problems, seek help from a qualified mental health care professional that addresses relationship issues. It is helpful to work with someone who specializes in the treatment of eating disorders because they understand the full scope of recovery and the triggers that can emerge when someone is moving into muddy waters. If your relationship ends in divorce, I have written a manual DO IT WITH LOVE: Positive Parenting after Separation and Divorce . I hope it can help you find your way through this challenging time. (click here).
STEP THREE: If you are not in a relationship, it is indeed helpful to work with your eating disorder specialist on relationship issues so that you can gain the confidence you need to begin dating.
STEP FOUR: Don’t leap into a new relationship. Get to know someone. Find out if you both want the same things. In fact, maybe it’s not time to jump into a new relationship at all. It is important to get to know yourself first and develop a loving relationship with yourself so that you can truly have one with someone else. When you are ready, dating someone casually but knowing what you want is essential to building a healthy and long lasting relationship. I will be addressing these issues in the monthly newsletter. Sign up for the newsletter now using the form on the left column.
Some transitions are inevitable when you heal your eating disorder.
Case example: The first time Dave came to see me he had been binging for months. After trying every diet under the sun, he decided there must be psychological reasons for his eating. He was married and had a small child but his marriage was in turmoil. No matter how he tried to fix the marriage, he wasn’t able to so he started fixing himself. After a few months of coming to therapy sessions on a weekly basis, Dave stopped bingeing and he lost more than forty pounds. He was hesitant to end his marriage but there appeared to be no other alternative. In an effort to ward off a divorce he started bingeing again. But by then he was willing to address the emotions that were building up inside. After realizing a divorce was inevitable, he felt relieved. He became even more committed to taking care of himself. (The case is a compilation, not a real person)
If you find yourself making a family transition, please stay on course. Take care of yourself and learn how to manage the separation and divorce in the most positive way possible.
DO IT WITH LOVE:
Positive Parenting after Separation and Divorce can help.
Dear Parent:
How are you and your family managing all hurdles now that you’ve decided to get divorced? There’s a lot to learn about your newly organized family. DO IT WITH LOVE can help you address many of the hurdles. If you want to help your children through the maze in the easiest way possible so that they can go on with their normal childhood development, research has shown it is how parents relate to each other after the separation that is extremely important. Why not start now? DO IT WITH LOVE can help.
DO IT WITH LOVE:
Positive Parenting after Separation & Divorce
Written by
Linda Blakeley, Ph.D.
SAMPLE TABLE OF CONTENTS
Creating Your Positive Parenting Relationship
Children’s Normal Growth States
How Children Cope with Divorce
Your Children’s Reactions at Each Stage
Living in Your Kids Shoes: Helping Them Cope
Support Systems that Help
Custody Options
What Research Says
Easy Does It: Managing Stress in Difficult Times
Custody Planning Guide Throughout the Year
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Review and Testimonials
REVIEWED by:
Leroy Egenberger
The California Therapist
Linda Blakeley’s POSITIVE PARENTING AFTER SEPARATION & DIVORCE is a workbook that stays nicely within the author’s intent. That is, to give families that are in the process of far reaching restructuring due to separation and divorce some tools to be constructive and intentional during that process. Because this book can be of help to clients such as these it can also be of help to clinicians who treat them.
Blakeley’s workbook deals broadly with a multitude of uses that are of concern to parents who are separating or divorcing….
Though primarily for parents, the workbook si useful for counselors because i=of its careful organization of topics, its three bibliographies, one for parents, one for children and one for professionals and its brief summaries of material on families of divorce, as well as developmental ages and stages and age specific responses of children to divorce and separation…..
TESTIMONIALS
On behalf of t he California Association of Marriage and Family Therapists – Educational Foundation (CAMFT), we want to thank you for providing a very well received and effective workshop on a “dynamic treatment approach for couples with children.”
Mary Reimersma, Executive Director, CAMFT
I am very familiar with the excellent service of Parents Sharing Custody in the past…
F. Williams, Director, Division of Family & Child Psychiatry,
Cedars-Sinai Medical Center
Dr. Blakeley has perseverance and dedication to the goal of helping families survive the trauma of divorce.
Ciji Ware, Author
She (Dr. Blakeley) is an extremely knowledgeable and competent professional who has much to offer families troubled by problems that result as a consequence of marital dissolution.
Michael Kelly, Esquire, Attorney-at-Law
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